Just as a fair warning, this is one of those "I can't get a girl friend!" threads.

And just to make things a bit different, I'll even provide a physical and mental evaluation of myself. Nothing too specific since Psychology is not my forte.

Okay, I'm a 22 year old male living in the US South. Tennessee to be exact. That being said, I am a bit of a red neck and do some of the things that many consider going along with being a red neck. I use smokeless tobacco and enjoy manual labor. Other than that, I'm far from being normal.

For starters, I'm insanely shy. Most of the time if someone talks to me, I'll keep my responses brief and to the point. That is, if I don't completely ignore them. Aside from that I'm a total Weeaboo. I know next to nothing outside of anime and manga other than what I learn in classes at school. The only "good" thing about me mentally is that I'm not a violent person. I would much rather have a calm and logical discussion to solve problems than to just slug it out. As a result, I don't hit people and I'm not abusive.

As for the physical part, I'm a big guy. I'm six feet tall, that's 182.88 centimeters for those that use the metric system, and I weigh about 280 pounds, 127.007 kilograms. It's fairly even for the most part considering that it's mostly fat. I'm not going to mention the hair and eyes partly because I can't name the color of my hair and my eyes tend to shift from blue, gray, and purple depending on my mood.

At this point, if it wasn't clear already I should say that I'm a virgin. I am already past the halfway mark of turning the movie The 40 Year Old Virgin into a form of biography.

That being said, any tips on helping me to find a girl friend? That virginity part may be true, but I just added that to show how terrible I am around girls. I'm looking more for someone that I can actually love.

Making threads on this forum won't help. Talking to women is the only way my friend. Just learn to talk to girls you aren't attracted to and work your way up... i'm a quiet guy in real life too, it's hard to find a girl with patience lol

Well, there's not much to say... Are you sure your weight is 127 kilograms for 183 centimeters?
To give you an idea, I am 185 centimeters tall, weigh about half 127 kilograms and I'm not skinny (at least, that's what Princessamiki told me :p)

If your conversions were correct, then what should you do?...
I know it may sound like I don't know anything, but if you like manual labor, then go ahead ad try to lose some weight first. It's a good way to gain confidence. Don't feel down if it is fruitless at the beginning or even after a month or two. Perseverance is what makes diets efficient. A good way to approach girls without too much talking... is dancing. Try to learn some rock (the hard point being you must learn with a girl -ask your mother/sister/friend- ), go to a party or two to improve your skills. The only thing left is being able to ask a girl to dance. Of course it isn't all you'll need to need a GF, but it's a good first step.

All this is to build confidence, make some girl friends while partying - dancing, especially after drinking some alcohol, is really really fun and might make you forget your shyness a bit. Remember contact is required to dance though -, learning to chat a bit with girls.
It may be stereotypical but a guy with good humor and talking skills is what most girls are after.

Hmmm...I'm not all-knowing so don't take what I say for granted. Plus, loosing weight is a long and hard path.
PS: guys have two horrible flaws with girls (at first) => they only think of sex / they think of all their female friends as potential GFs. Avoid both. Treat them as normal friends and you'll get over your shyness as time pass by. Don't wait for too long before taking action, things ain't gonna get any better if you don't do anything.

i can give you some hints to first, how get a girlfriend. what you need is to not be shy, be fearless on aproaching and talking to a girl. that is what makes you a 90 % an attractive person and even a man to women.


this is one of thousend others but this is the most imortant advice i can give....there are hundreds of more things you have to be aware. from your clothing, the way to speak and even how to look and smile to a womam but first get over the first advice i gave. i started to study this things since i was 16, now i am 20 and a pick up artist and i am not handsome at all.

another advice is nerver, never, never invite her to eat at a restaurant or whetver food it may be, the first and second time you invite her. coffe and icecream cool but not inside any house, building, car etc.

One bad thing about the advice from you, Yuki. It's the fact that I'm a violent drunk. Get some liquor in me and I start picking fights. That's why I don't drink anymore.

...Last time I got drunk I tried to pick a fight with a bonfire of all things and was just going around to the other guys trying to start trouble.

z.z Too lazy to read everything the others said, but yaah.. First and foremost, I think you need to build your social skills . I'm not telling you to go out there and chat up a storm with everyone, however saying "hello" wouldn't hurt. ^_^ That's all it takes. YOU just have to be confident in yourself. n,n

Exercise.
Change your hair and/or buy new clothes. (not necessary, but a makeover is ALWAYS a confidence booster. I should know, I am a girl so listen to me. )

i suggest watching every TWGOK episode, reading the entire manga and playing every galge you can find on the internet, after you are done all of that you will have the skills my friend

Well all I can say is, don't approach a girl only with the intention of making them your girlfriend. Let her know you and let yourself know her as well. As for conversations, the best way to keep a convo going is just to ask questions. Im not much of a talker so I always try to keep convos going with questions, let the other person answer (and sometimes they ramble) and I can always comment and reply based on what they said. If you're unhappy about your body image, then start off with small exercises like sit ups and crunches. If you're really determined then push yourself out the door for a jog and limit your diet. But u know... not all girls are judgmental. Eh as for the virgin thing, who cares. It'll happen when the time is right. You still have plenty of time, don't fret now. Just remember that your life doesn't change unless you make the changes.

posted an amazingly long answer, lost it all because my connection went off
Too lazy to type it once again. It was mostly about topics you can discuss with a female friend and the fact that you don't need to be drunk to do any of the things I told you before.

Kazuma wrote:

Just as a fair warning, this is one of those "I can't get a girl friend!" threads.

And just to make things a bit different, I'll even provide a physical and mental evaluation of myself. Nothing too specific since Psychology is not my forte.

Okay, I'm a 22 year old male living in the US South. Tennessee to be exact. That being said, I am a bit of a red neck and do some of the things that many consider going along with being a red neck. I use smokeless tobacco and enjoy manual labor. Other than that, I'm far from being normal.

For starters, I'm insanely shy. Most of the time if someone talks to me, I'll keep my responses brief and to the point. That is, if I don't completely ignore them. Aside from that I'm a total Weeaboo. I know next to nothing outside of anime and manga other than what I learn in classes at school. The only "good" thing about me mentally is that I'm not a violent person. I would much rather have a calm and logical discussion to solve problems than to just slug it out. As a result, I don't hit people and I'm not abusive.

As for the physical part, I'm a big guy. I'm six feet tall, that's 182.88 centimeters for those that use the metric system, and I weigh about 280 pounds, 127.007 kilograms. It's fairly even for the most part considering that it's mostly fat. I'm not going to mention the hair and eyes partly because I can't name the color of my hair and my eyes tend to shift from blue, gray, and purple depending on my mood.

At this point, if it wasn't clear already I should say that I'm a virgin. I am already past the halfway mark of turning the movie The 40 Year Old Virgin into a form of biography.

That being said, any tips on helping me to find a girl friend? That virginity part may be true, but I just added that to show how terrible I am around girls. I'm looking more for someone that I can actually love.

Workout, lose weight, that's what I did. Your bmi (body mass index) is 38.0, obese is anything above 30. Humans are animals, so when one seeks a mate it's due to finding one that is physically fit and attractive to the eye. My friend Jay was 280~ as well, and is down to 190 in 9 months time. His diet was impeccable and the willpower to lose weight was amazing. Once he lost weight he gained an ass ton of confidence, but not to the point of being a douchebag, and he's had his fair share of women recently. It amazed me really. Kid went from being 115 lbs heavier than me and becoming more "fit" and 10 lbs over me in a short amount of time. Next, you need to grow a pair of balls and stop being a little bitch. Shyness is cute when you're 6, and maybe 9. Hell being shy is cute on girls. However, you're not a girl, and you are no where near the age of 6. You need to not be such a weaboo, which is problem number 3. It's not wrong to like anime/manga, it isn't ok to have your life revolving around it. You need new hobbies, learn a sport, lose some weight, learn to dance, and get some friends to go out with. Fact of the matter is, you really need to start getting out, or you really will be alone. Bluntily put, if you don't do this and start taking better care of yourself and keep thinking in an otaku mindset, you won't be getting anything outside of the girls you see in the pages you read. Realistically speaking, of course. Also, eyes don't shift colors, as much as you would like to think that. I hope you don't openly say that to people. At best, based on protein intake eyes can become brighter or darker of the same shade and are not done so in short periods of time, but they don't shift colors, it's physically/genetically impossible. Also clothing can make them stand out more, buy clothes that emphasize your eyes. Colored eyes are the greatest gift to the single man.

Sorry my answer isn't as nice as the others, I don't really know how to not say things upright and bluntly :/ I'll work on that later.

well this is what my friend said to me when I was expecting him to say some big speech "BE LIKE A LION". Then we went to the bar where he hit on the waitress to try and prove his point even, only to get rejected and say to me "you know I think she goes the other way" lol He was from outa town and I knew she was a lesbian haha he also thought cause she was black and he was he'd win for sure but nope lol. I know fail as wingman. but be like a lion he said, "be calm and fearless like a lion, talk to a chick like a lion taking down a gazelle, well maybe not like that they may get hurt but you know what I mean" lol

like said be clam and fearless. pull off jokes, but no crude sick/twisted ones. Talk a bit about them and talk about yourself that they might find interesting. I'm a countryish guy myself and a big motor junkie, but girls don't wana hear about this olds 455 I'm rebuilding lol. I did volunteer firefighting for a long time, makes decent conversation when asked what you do for a hobby also good way to meet people and friends. Thats a good way to get in shape and set a goal to loose weight as well. and looking decent helps cause as they say "every girls crazy about a sharp dressed man"


i would take the car over the women tho lol